I suppose the best place to begin on the topic of biblical womanhood is at the beginning. Genesis 1:27 says, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27” ESV
Women and men were created in God’s image, equally. Both in equal standing before God. Both image bearers. And if that were not beautiful enough they were also both created with distinct differences. From the beginning God intended them to be equal, yet perform different roles and compliment each other and work together. Biblical womanhood, like biblical manhood, simply means living by God’s standards. It means living according to His truth that He has given to us through His word. We honor and glorify Him when we embrace our roles and aspire to be the women that He desires for us to be. As daughters of God we are called to be grounded in His truth aspiring to reflect His nature to the world around us, pointing others to Christ. Man’s (and woman’s) chief end is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever. Our obedience not only glorifies God it leads to our spiritual growth and blessings.
Living as godly women begins at the cross.
The Bible says we are made new in Christ. Truly embracing our role as women begins at salvation. Sweet Christian sister, God has taken your heart of stone and given you a heart of flesh. He has transformed you, regenerated you, set you apart. You are new in Christ and as a new creation you are called to live obediently and be sanctified.
The old things have passed away; behold the new has come into being – 2 Corinthians 5:17
This means change. This means we are different, new creations. The things we chased after before should no longer be the things we chase after now. This means by His grace we can become the woman He desires us to be. This means we make every attempt to follow Christ and His example. Our focus should be on heavenly things and not the things of this world. Jesus says this in John 17
I do not ask that you take them out of the world, but that you keep them from the evil one. They are not of the world, just as I am not of the world. Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth. As you sent me into the world, so I have sent them into the world. And for their sake I consecrate myself, that they also may be sanctified in truth.
How do we ground ourselves in His truth? Simple…we MUST read our Bibles. It’s imperative that we know what the Bible says and what it means by what it says.
“This is why the Bible stands at the center of the Christian life. For we believe the Bible is the inspired Word of God. That it stands before us as our guide and over us our judge, and under us as the rock of our hope.” – John Piper
God’s Word must be the final authority in our lives. Got Questions says this, “The Word of God must be her final authority in life because, if its authority is not clear to her, then she will become a judge of Scripture rather than letting Scripture judge her. This leads to compromise and eventual moral collapse.”
Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away.Psalm 1
John MacArthur says this in the book 12 Extraordinary Women, “The Bible celebrates the value of a virtuous woman. The whole message of feminist egalitarianism is that there is really nothing extraordinary about women. That is certainly not the message of scripture. Scripture honors women as women as encourages them to seek honor in a uniquely feminine way. The most significant women in scripture were influential not because of their careers, but because of their character. The faithfulness of these women is their true lasting legacy.”
What can we learn from God’s word about biblical womanhood?
Our character should reflect Christ in us.
The Woman Who Fears the Lord – Proverbs 31
10 An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
14 She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
15 She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
17 She dresses herself with strength
and makes her arms strong.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
20 She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.
In her marriage
We are told in Genesis that God created Eve from the rib of Adam. Bone of his bone, flesh of his flesh. God made Eve for Adam because there was no other creature suitable for him. Eve was created for distinct purposes. Made in the imago dei, created as Adam’s helpmate and companion. Proverbs 31 says “she brings him good not harm” Her husband has confidence in her, because he can trust her. She is his companion. She’s called to speak truth to him and offer him wise counsel. This means she is called to seek wisdom and knowledge from the Lord so that she can fulfill that role as helpmate.
In her home
She manages her household well. She works willingly with her hands. She labors for the Lord seeking to glorify Him in all that she does. The woman seeking after God nurtures her family and shows kindness and generosity to her community. She goes about her work with gladness and joy, and teaches what is good. She fears the Lord. This fear is reverence. She honors the Lord and respects Him by her obedience.
Teach Sound Doctrine – Titus 2
2 But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine. 2 Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. 3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. 6 Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. 7 Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, 8 and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us.
The godly woman relies on Christ and goes to God in prayer often. She places her faith and trusts in Christ and His finished work. Her hope is not in herself or the world, her hope is in Jesus. It is important that we remember we are not enough, Jesus is enough. We are not perfect, we won’t be perfect here on earth, but God is sanctifying us by the power of His Spirit within us, and we are called to aspire to these things. We are told, “You shall be holy, for I am holy.” 1 Peter 1:16 This is not optional. This is a command. Ephesians 2:10 says,
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.
We are covered in His righteousness by justification. We are being sanctified, He is conforming us to the image of His Son, and we can be confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. When we enter heaven we will be glorified.
While here on earth, in our marriage, in our homes, and in our communities, may we glorify God by reflecting His nature to those around us.